Meeting Update

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We have a support group for moms in the Tulsa area!

Our group meets the first Thursday of every month from 7-9p.
We welcome all moms who are parenting children who have Asperger's Syndrome.
For locations and last minute updates about meetings, check here or (even better) check our Facebook page.
We are currently meeting in the back room at Mazzio's on 51st & Sheridan in Tulsa.

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Expectations

It is Spring!  With Spring comes all the freshness and beauty that only this time of year can bring.  The beauty of new growth in the flowers and plants is amazing and the expectation of even more color and new life is inborn into us at this time of the year.  We "expect" more and more new colors, new baby birds, new grass, etc. etc. at this time of year, don't we?, and that expectation rarely ever lets us down with another result.

What are your expectations of your kiddo at this time of year?  For those of us that may have older kids, we have the expectations of EOI testing, and for those of us in the High School range, in Oklahoma, we have the expectation that our kids have to pass 4 out of 7 EOI tests by their Senior year to graduate.  That is especially entertaining when you have a kid that has supreme levels of test anxiety, like mine.  I told his IEP teacher that our son would most likely fail the Algebra EOI test, and we will all just hope that he does better on a retake in December.  I also told his current Algebra teacher the same thing.  How interesting when I got a call yesterday from his IEP teacher that told me she would be shocked if he did not score in the advanced levels as he sailed through that test.  You know...the one I absolutely expected him to most likely fail! I am grateful that my expectation was not correct!

Often, our expectation, teacher's expectation, or others expectations of our kids is not correct.  Typically, the expectation is lower than what actually comes to pass (especially if we are having a really rough day!)  I got a fresh wake up call that even when I am the expert on my child, my child is a person and can and will surprise us all when you least expect it.

In the Bible, John the Baptist had been preparing the way for a Savior.  A Savior he did not know, and could not guess when he would come.  John sent two of his disciples to see Jesus finally, when news of Jesus started to spread...the question they asked him was: 
              "Are You the Expected One, or do we look for someone else?"
                                                                                                Luke 7:19
John had been on a mission to prepare the way for the Savior of the world.  He worked with single minded focus to do that task as he expected God to keep his promise and send a Savior, and he absolutely knew that promise would be kept.

I would like to encourage us all to take a fresh look at our expectations for our kids.  We daily draw conclusions based on what those expectations are.  While that may hold true for whatever a "neurotypical" child is, we should never decide what the expected outcome will be for our kids, either in the short or long term.  The only One who knows that is the Lord...and he was so very much the expected One that answered John's disciples.  John had the highest expectations and did not waiver.  I would like to encourage us to have that same level of high expectation for what our kids can become.
Happy Spring!
Blessings,
Julie