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Our group meets the first Thursday of every month from 7-9p.
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We are currently meeting in the back room at Mazzio's on 51st & Sheridan in Tulsa.

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

High Expectations


School has started and what do we all have for our kiddos?  I hope it is high expectations!  This was illustrated to me in an interesting way after our "teacher kick-off  meeting" that we have each year after about 7-10 days of school.  At the meeting, we always start it, or end it, with the statement that our expectation is that our son will be going to college after high school, and incidentally, he will do better with teachers that have high expectations of him.
This past week, was our meeting and it went very well.  There were 2 teachers that were around him last year that stated how he has matured over the summer and other nice things, which is always good to hear!  I then received a follow up email from one of the attendees that said in part: "I especially admire your positive attitude and high standards for your son".  Now....that can be processed in a variety of ways, such as:

1) Thank you very much! I can think of no other way to be!
2) Is there a reason I should not be positive or have high expectations?
3) Did you not have a positive outlook or high expectations before we stated that?

You never know what is behind written words, but that comment gave me pause to think.  I fully believe that most parents do not stay "on" teachers, processes, etc. as related to school.  I also fully believe that many parents tend to go into a situation already having made up their minds about the cause, who is to blame, etc. the defensive or negative posture, if you will, rather than the positive.  All that said, I think we all need to maintain the highest of expectations for our kids, no matter how tough any given day may be, as well as a positive outlook overall.
This scenario speaks also to Jesus' expectations of his disciples.  Look who he called; common men like fishermen.  Look what they would do by following Him:  Take the Gospel to the world!  He saw in the men he chose the potential of who they would become.  We should do no less for our kids than that!  And - on the days where we feel like everything is against our kid and us, and we don't fit in, etc...remember these words by Jesus...it is amazing how this verse can relate to our kids.
                     "If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own.  As it is, you do  not     belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world."      John 15:19

I prefer to hold to high expectations and a positive outlook as much as I possibly can. I know sometimes I'll fall down on that, but overall, our kids deserve our highest expectations of who they can become!
Blessings,
Julie