Meeting Update


We have a support group for moms in the Tulsa area!

Our group meets the first Thursday of every month from 7-9p.
We welcome all moms who are parenting children who have Asperger's Syndrome.
For locations and last minute updates about meetings, check here or (even better) check our Facebook page.
We are currently meeting in the back room at Mazzio's on 51st & Sheridan in Tulsa.

Thursday, February 6, 2014


I see that my last post was December.  Yikes!  Where is this year ALREADY going?  January was a bit messy...and fast...  I'd like to share how our January started if I may!
Our son is 16, and with that age or thereabouts...comes the need for wisdom tooth extraction.  Brings back fond memories right?  RIGHHHHHHHTTTT....
Simple, straightforward thing...a bit of happy juice, a bit of anesthesia and your are done.  HA!  With our son's particular flavor of Asperger's comes all kinds of biochemical twists and turns - much like a high octane roller coaster.  So!  All was well, until he was "waking up" and needed to be able to drink a bit and then we could go home.  That was at noon.  Fast forward 4 hours later and we have the chief anesthesiologist coming in to say they are going to admit him to St. Francis Children's Hospital, as he was a mess. (okay, chief dude did not say "a mess"...but that's the heart of the matter).  So!  We spent a night and the next day in the hospital for wisdom teeth due to a reaction with the anesthesia and a pain med that he was given.  F...U...N...
These were our "take-away's" from this enriching experience - because we always look for "take-away's":
1) Be flexible.  Best laid plans don't always go the way we plan.  We can choose to fume against the situation and make everyone miserable, or take deep breaths and choose to make the best of it.  We looked at it as just another "memory maker", although an expensive one! :) 
2)  Be mindful of what you are projecting to your kiddo and those around you. I have read much on the fact that our kids may seem indifferent via the usual ways to observe a person, but our kids actually are MUCH more attune to what is called low level stress around them than we are probably aware. If they are affected by low level stress, just think of what the high level stress does to them when they have trouble dealing with "regular" life situations.  Our boy needed calm, collected parents when his world was not in a good place.  We needed to project what I call professional friendliness with the nurses, etc. in order to get what we needed in the hospital.  Our son saw his parents controlled and so did the staff - a good thing.
3) Be your kiddo's advocate, be their advocate, be their advocate. Whether it is school, a social situation, or a hospital.  You typically know, in your gut, what is best for your child.  I am not saying do not listen to wise council, because we all need wise council as we tend to get too close to our situations.  What I am saying is, be your kiddo's voice, because they do need an advocate.  No matter if they are brilliant or not, seemingly communicative or not, charming or not.  They need an advocate.  Age really doesn't matter either. Our son has a whole different level of pain awareness than most and ability to tolerate med's than most.  We firmly communicated that during our hospital soiree', and if someone didn't agree, we asked for someone else until we got someone that got what we were saying. 

An awesome display of advocacy comes from the Bible in Luke 5.  This story tells of some friends who wanted to take their paralyzed friend to Jesus to be healed.  They could not get to him because the house was too crowded so they went up to the roof and tore a hole in it and lowered their friend through the roof so he ended up right in front of Jesus.  As a result, the man was healed.  Luke 5:17-26.  I think it is significant to note that the text says "...When Jesus saw their faith, he said , Friend, your sins are forgiven.". (NIV)  Did you catch that?  When Jesus saw THEIR faith.  He took note of the advocates and how they believed so strongly about this being the right thing to do.  I think that is awesome.  So!  as we are in February, and we may be tempted to start to get into the "well, the year is going so fast", if our kids are in school or having other issues, do not become complacent.  Hang in there as an advocate, because you are needed and it does make a difference!  Jesus notices those that stand in for the ones that need help.  He notices!  It matters!