Meeting Update


We have a support group for moms in the Tulsa area!

Our group meets the first Thursday of every month from 7-9p.
We welcome all moms who are parenting children who have Asperger's Syndrome.
For locations and last minute updates about meetings, check here or (even better) check our Facebook page.
We are currently meeting in the back room at Mazzio's on 51st & Sheridan in Tulsa.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Back to....

Join us this month as we hear about how to keep a Care Notebook and get some encouragement/reminders on how to be on top of the start of school!  See you at Mazzio's on 51st at 7:00!


When we turn the calendar page at our house, my son's first response has typically been something like...."Oh starts in "x" days".  This year was better (he'll be a junior), he just threw his head back and gave me the teenager "UGHHHH" expression!

My schedule also changes in the summer to give me more time at home, as these years are all too fleeting to have my kid still a kid.  So I am one to throw my head back and say "UGHHH" as well!  It is a game changer when our kids get up to the upper teens.  So if you still have your kids as "kids", please enjoy them - even if you want to throttle them on some days! :), or even on the days you just want to cry from frustration at the challenges our kids can bring. They get into teen years all too fast.

What I have been impressed to share with you this month, is a verse that I recently used with my son.  There are multiple "flavors" as I like to say, of A.S.  My son's particular flavor make the use of language challenging.  He can, and always has it seems, talk a blue streak.  Getting that flow to be on path or on demand, can be a challenge.  So, not surprisingly, he failed the sophomore writing/English test and had to take a 5 day crash retake a couple weeks ago as English II is one of the tests your child MUST pass in order to graduate.  Doesn't matter that he made straight A's on a report card mind you...the powers that be in Oklahoma think it is way better to have your child's ability to pass high school based on 1-2 day tests for each of 7 tests.  If you have test anxiety (as mine does in spades), get ready to start a "retake" process which is it's own flawed system.  Sigh...  Oh well, I digress...
Anyway, with this test anxiety in tow, as we were driving to the high school, this verse came to me and it is the verse we talked about in regards to the test.  It is powerful, and I never really had thought of it to hold to until that day, and now with school return looming, I know it's a verse to hold to indeed...all through the school year (and even beyond that!)
The verse is from Exodus - from the experience Moses had with God at the burning bush.  God has just laid on Moses the fact that he was the guy to go to a friendly (NOT) pharaoh and tell him to let the people Egypt relied on for all their slave labor, to leave. This looked like an impossible task indeed.  Moses kept giving God all the reasons why he was really NOT the guy for the job.  One of those reasons was that he really did not have the words to say, much like the issue some flavors of AS kids have.  It goes like this:

                                       "Oh Lord, I have never been eloquent neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant.  I am slow of speech and tongue."  this part is the focal for us:  " The Lord said to him,  Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say."   Exodus 4:10; 12.  (We know how that ended...Egypt had to do their own slave labor...needless to say!)

This is the verse I encourage all of us to step into the new school year with.  We will likely have times when our school teachers, administrators, etc. say stuff to us where we are at a loss, or may cause us to immediately speak back - not always a good idea.  I would like to encourage each of us to pause, and allow God to help us to know what to say.  He will.  He's there.  I know it.  So, when we are in the position of wanting to immediately talk back to a "hot" situation, or are just drawing a blank...pull up this verse, ask for God's help, and I guarantee His words are more powerful than ours.  Be your kids' advocate...and use your words wisely as they are oh so powerful!!

Oh yes....Jacob's proctor said he nailed the test this time.