Meeting Update


We have a support group for moms in the Tulsa area!

Our group meets the first Thursday of every month from 7-9p.
We welcome all moms who are parenting children who have Asperger's Syndrome.
For locations and last minute updates about meetings, check here or (even better) check our Facebook page.
We are currently meeting in the back room at Mazzio's on 51st & Sheridan in Tulsa.

Monday, December 1, 2014

"Supposed to"...

Well it's December!  We may think we are supposed to:

Shop ourselves to a crazed state
Overspend what we planned to
Overcommit to sometimes be places where we don't want to be (with a smile!)
Overwork at work, trying to get it all done because it is end of year
For those of us with mid high, high school, and college kiddos..juggle finals week
For those of us with younger kiddos..juggle the loss of school routine (aka: break isn't really a break)
Be with family that is

Lots of "supposed to's" aren't there??!!

In this time of build up to Christmas, my favorite time is always the couple days after Thanksgiving right BEFORE December really hits.  It's the time of anticipation of a very special time of year, the thought that I'll be extremely organized, not a multi-tasking crazy woman, and calmly bake myself into cinnamon scented happiness while magically getting everything done at least a week before Christmas!  RIGGGGHHHHHTTTTTTT!!!    Anyone that knows me knows that if they were betting people, they would make a mint on betting that would never happen!
Alas...I live in the real world and with a few extras to deal with in all of our "real worlds", there are few of us that don't deal with the weight of "supposed to" which gets compounded this time of year.

The post I always do in December means so much to me, that I'll do it again this month.  This was given to me by my Mom who found it and gave it to me years ago.  I think all of us Mom's can and should identify with Mary.  Although we do not have the Son of God in our care, we do have a completely unique creation that God did decide to entrust to us, and when we look at our kids and do indeed wonder "What am I supposed to do?", we can look to Mary who just loved her son and raised Him to be His best.  She didn't raise Him in a palace, she didn't raise Him in a way that would make Him an entitled acting pain, she just loved Him and raised Him to be His best - and that was without a doubt - what she was "supposed" to do!

Let's all try to focus on what Christmas really is about, and not just the baby in the manger habit, but that God loves us so much, He sent His Son, so we could know Him.  He has a plan for our own kids lives, and we are just "supposed to" do our best in raising them to look for the plan that God has for each of them.  It may be harder to find with our kids and take longer, but keep telling them there is a plan for them and keep helping them look for it!!

For all us Moms: 

"Maybe God chose Mary because He knew she would be the one to fortify herself, to be embroiled in inner turmoil for the sake of this special child. It wasn't easy raising the Son of God. And Mary was the one who would sit at his bedside at night and look at this one who didn't look like a king and wonder, "What am I supposed to do?"
I think we all have sat at the bedside of our own very special child and thought exactly that. Well, then, take are in very good company.
The Lord has blessed you and is with you. Don't be afraid, Mary; God has shown you his grace. Luke 1:28,30.

Have a blessed December!