Meeting Update

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We have a support group for moms in the Tulsa area!

Our group meets the first Thursday of every month from 7-9p.
We welcome all moms who are parenting children who have Asperger's Syndrome.
For locations and last minute updates about meetings, check here or (even better) check our Facebook page.
We are currently meeting in the back room at Mazzio's on 51st & Sheridan in Tulsa.

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Do you see it?

How did your day go today?  How did your kiddo's day go?
Did you see anything behind the good, bad or unusual, or did you just look at face value on the happenings of today?

There is so much more around all of us than what is obvious.  A kiddo's melt down over homework may be just about homework, but it may also mean that he or she is afraid to do the work because they are afraid they may get something wrong, or not do what you expect them to do.  They may also have misunderstood something that was said and think the very worst, when in fact, that "something that was said" was inconsequential.  
I have been reminded lately that what we see on the surface often is not at all what is going on.  We all need to be really mindful of what things are behind our kiddos actions at this point of a new school year as well as change of seasons.  Shorter days, less outside activity time and school work can really wear on our kids.

We might consider looking for reasons to give small, specific praises to our kids, as specificity is what they actually need.  Often, global compliments like "Great Job", does not make an impact, but "you did a great job having a good attitude about homework tonight", does compute!
We had marvelous quote by Einstein up for a long time in our sons room, and it is so very good to be reminded of this truth, by arguably the most brilliant scientist of all time (who definitely had aspergian tendencies btw:)  )  He said :  "Not everything that can be counted, counts; and not everything that counts can be counted."  
I still love this quote so very much.

In a world that gives worth to a person based on GPA's, rankings, popularity, and what accolades they may receive, it is a good thing to remember God doesn't care one bit about that stuff.  

            "So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."  
                                   2 Corinthians 4:18

Blessings!
Julie