Meeting Update


We have a support group for moms in the Tulsa area!

Our group meets the first Thursday of every month from 7-9p.
We welcome all moms who are parenting children who have Asperger's Syndrome.
For locations and last minute updates about meetings, check here or (even better) check our Facebook page.
We are currently meeting in the back room at Mazzio's on 51st & Sheridan in Tulsa.

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

That's a problem!

Problems.  I don't care for them - do you?  They tend to derail my plans, always cost time, often money, and are never welcome.  
So, why on earth would we want to spend time on a blogsite reading something about them?
Because we all have them.
Because we all see them differently.
Because we all need to deal with them.
Because there may be another way to see them.

You may be in a great place right now.  All is well, second semester of school in a groove, no transition issues right now, no big looming problems coming up, therapists all smiley about your child's progress, future looking good.  Happiness...big contented sigh. may be struggling right now.  School is an ongoing struggle, you flinch when the phone rings and then break out in hives when you see your schools number on your phone, you grit your teeth just to make it from meltdown to meltdown, therapists use those "encouraging" words like "shifting gears", "new plan", "take a step forward, and you always move backwards a little"...things like that.  Big Sigh...not so contented.

Either way you go, there will be problems that come and go in our lives.  The Bible is clear on's really not an "if" you have problems/ is a "you will have them", statement (Jn 16:33).   I'm going to poach a bit from my Pastor, and give us something to think about in regards to this word we don't like:  "Problem".

There are those out there that talk a myth that you will not have problems if you are tight with God, or a good person, or doing the right things, etc. etc.  Note the myth word in that sentence.  That is a myth.  Just like the insanity that went with the early doctors that said Autism was caused from "refrigerator mothers", also a myth!

We will all have problems in this life, so what are we going to do with them? Here is a thought (this is where I poach from my Pastor!):
Use the problem as a growth opportunity.  
I know that sounds trite, and you may be thinking "that's easy for you to don't know my situation".  And, I don't.  But we all deal with different things and if we let problems overtake us and we give up to despair, then the problem wins.  I'm not in favor of the bad ever winning.  Those that know me know I can be a tad I don't like the bad to win!
What can problems do for us?  They can develop endurance, and build our character, yes.  I think that most of all, if we allow them to, they can create real faith, or strengthen our faith.
So, what could we do in times of trouble?  I'm taking wine and reckless behavior off the table, ok?!
How about turning to a friend we know who has a strong faith?
How about looking at some scripture?
How about allowing yourself to know you are terrifically, ferociously loved by God? 
How about trusting that there is a plan, even though it may look ugly right now?

Give it some thought.  We are dealing with the reality of graduation right now...all of our safe and scheduled world of school will be radically changing, and I don't know about your ASD kiddo, but big changes are not a happy thing.  I am trying to remind him of these very things as he deals with the problem of a radically changing life schedule.  

Mostly, let's remember to remind our kids that they were made for a purpose. God does not make mistakes.  No one else can do what is planned for them to do.  We just have to do a little bit more perhaps to help them find that purpose!

"You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people".                 Genesis 50:20